Jun 26Member-onlyDon’t Let Friendly Fire Derail the Real Fight for Reproductive JusticeWe need to talk about something that’s undermining our fight for reproductive justice. It’s been a brutal weekend, made more so by a minor trend I’ve seen in speeches at rallies and in my social feeds — rage channeled at the people who are showing up. Don’t get me wrong…Feminism3 min readFeminism3 min read
Mar 26, 2021Member-onlyWhat I Miss About Being Addicted to Diet-CultureI didn’t go looking for diet recovery, it found me. Looking back now I’m amazed at how long it took me to see that obsession with weight loss had completely consumed my life. At my various low points, I obsessed over my weight loss quest for the majority of my…Women5 min readWomen5 min read
Published in The Shadow·Jan 30, 2021Member-onlyStop Looking for a GuruWomen need to own our authority — Why is it so hard for women to own our authority? Why do we spend so much time seeking the opinions of others and looking for authority outside of ourselves? And how do we reclaim the power and sentience that is rightfully ours? Here’s what I’m seeing: The world is…Women5 min readWomen5 min read
Jun 6, 2020Member-onlySpiritual white women: burying your head in the sand is hurting not healingSomething I hear often from other white women, particularly in the spiritual or healing space, is that they don’t follow news or politics. The reasons they cite are various — feeling upset or scared by what they see happening in the world, not enough time or a feeling of not…Spirituality4 min readSpirituality4 min read
Published in Age of Awareness·Mar 14, 2020Member-onlyHow to Keep American Individualism from Making the COVID-19 Crisis WorseCommunity matters… I’ve written about how American individualism damages our health and wellbeing in the past but this week has illustrated just how much in living color. From empty grocery store shelves to people continuing to plan large events in spite of dire health warnings, we’ve seen the downside of…Social Justice5 min readSocial Justice5 min read
Feb 8, 2020Member-onlyBeing Age-InappropriateI ran out of fucks on my 40th birthday. Seriously. Unlike when I turned 30, I wasn’t thinking about how much I was supposed have accomplished or what I still “had time for.” It was more about what I didn’t feel like I had any more time for — most…Women4 min readWomen4 min read
Published in The Startup·Dec 12, 2019Member-onlyAn Open Letter to Health Professionalsfrom those of us who struggle to find one who will respect us — I got a text from a dear friend last week about her attempt to find a primary care physician in the city where she’s recently relocated. She was shaken and stunned at the way she was treated by a doctor who had never laid eyes on her before that day. …5 min read5 min read
Published in The Startup·Nov 18, 2019Member-onlyWe Need to Talk About PositivityA while back, I published an article about how the self-help industry sometimes gaslights us. It got a lot of response, mostly positive, but also generated confusion for some people. What I was referring to in the article is a viral strain of misinformation that has affixed itself (like a…Self Improvement5 min readSelf Improvement5 min read
Published in The Startup·Jul 7, 2019Member-onlyIs the Self-Help Industry is Gaslighting You?“You create your reality through the power of positive thinking.” “If you’re unhappy, that’s on YOU.” “Shift your mindset and you’ll manifest all you desire.” “Positivity will set you free.” What do all these statements have in common? Aside from the fact that they are infinitely meme-able (and arguably vomit-inducing)…Self Improvement4 min readSelf Improvement4 min read
Feb 17, 2019Member-onlyI’m not a Feminist, but…If I had a dollar for every time I heard a woman say to me — in a hushed tone, often looking around warily to see who might be listening — that she’s “not a feminist, but” and then go on to explain that she doesn’t approve of a particular…Feminism6 min readFeminism6 min read
