Why is it so hard for women to own our authority? Why do we spend so much time seeking the opinions of others and looking for authority outside of ourselves? And how do we reclaim the power and sentience that is rightfully ours?

Here’s what I’m seeing: The world is…

Something I hear often from other white women, particularly in the spiritual or healing space, is that they don’t follow news or politics. The reasons they cite are various — feeling upset or scared by what they see happening in the world, not enough time or a feeling of not…

Community matters…

I’ve written about how American individualism damages our health and wellbeing in the past but this week has illustrated just how much in living color. …

I ran out of fucks on my 40th birthday. Seriously. Unlike when I turned 30, I wasn’t thinking about how much I was supposed have accomplished or what I still “had time for.” …

I got a text from a dear friend last week about her attempt to find a primary care physician in the city where she’s recently relocated. She was shaken and stunned at the way she was treated by a doctor who had never laid eyes on her before that day.

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A while back, I published an article about how the self-help industry sometimes gaslights us. It got a lot of response, mostly positive, but also generated confusion for some people. …

“You create your reality through the power of positive thinking.”

“If you’re unhappy, that’s on YOU.”

“Shift your mindset and you’ll manifest all you desire.”

“Positivity will set you free.”

What do all these statements have in common? Aside from the fact that they are infinitely meme-able (and arguably vomit-inducing)…

If I had a dollar for every time I heard a woman say to me — in a hushed tone, often looking around warily to see who might be listening — that she’s “not a feminist, but” and then go on to explain that she doesn’t approve of a particular…